Thursday, December 1, 2016

A Montessori Playtime!

Oh what a joy these last few weeks have been! 

At 13 weeks it was like a little light switched on inside Alfie, all of a sudden he was interested in everything! He was reaching out to grab objects, bringing things to his mouth and from 14 weeks passing things between his hands (I've been told he's young to be doing this but I'm in no way surprised, he's very advanced#smug)



These are the toys that Alfie has been showing most interest in. We offered him each toy, most items we held out he didn't react to at all, these were the ones that made his wee eyes open wide and his little fingers stretch out! The books at the back were a surprise hit, I'd assumed that he was too young to enjoy such stagnant activities but he loves lying down and having a chat about each picture. The chicken rattle on the left took a few offerings before he went for it while the sock puppets, Montessori Ball and wooden ring were instant hits!


Newborn Montessori play room

Every afternoon while he takes his long nap I prep out his little play area - this is definitely an indulgence that is uniquely afforded to an only child, I can't imagine being able to do this if there were other children wrecking about! There are so many gorgeous montessori rooms and nurseries on Pinterest but I do not live a life worthy of Pinterest and must make Montessori fit with the rest of our home! A Montessori environment is referred to as a "Prepared Environment", one that is ready for a child and accessible to them. The objects within it should be suited to a child's physical abilities and their developmental stage. When it comes to a child's relationship to his surrounding Maria Montessori has this to say;
"How does the child assimilate his environment? He does it solely in virtue of one of those characteristics that we now know him to have. This is an intense and specialized sensitiveness in consequence of which the things about him awaken so much interest and so much enthusiasm that they become incorporated in his very existence. The child absorbs these impressions not wit his mind but with his life itself."
The adult a child becomes will be a reflection of the environment in which they were raised.


A child's environment need not be cluttered and filled with lots of distractions, in fact these blankets are probably overly stimulating for Alfie, but its really cold here and these are the warmest that we have!! The Montessori nursery should be neat, beautiful and purposeful. Everything within it should have a place and a reason for being there to encourage a child to calmly explore, appreciate and use each item. I've been in childcare environments where the area is so chaotic and so rammed full of toys that children are literally running from one thing to the next and leaving a trail of dropped toys in their wake. Their energy (never mind attention) is strewn about the room, making it impossible to concentrate or build deep relationships. There is a wonderful quote from Maria Montessori herself that explains why special care should be taken with the environment in which a child grows.
"The child has a different relation to his environment from ours...the child absorbs it. The things he sees are not just remembered; they form part of his soul. He incarnates in himself all in the world about him that his eyes see and his ears hear."
So a child who grows in a chaotic environment will develop a chaotic internal world, a child who grows in calmness and purposeful play will develop a more peaceful mentality. Below is a picture of Alfie at only 14 weeks, in it he is very carefully examining on of his mobiles which he grabbed and turned over before he brought to his face, something I thought would have been impossible for such a tiny mind and uncoordinated body to achieve! Well done Alfie!

Sunday, November 6, 2016

Back Gardens on Cnoc na Gaire

When it comes to home, a good garden is very important to Fred and I, in fact to me it was more important than the interiors. Perhaps I spent most of my childhood several feet up a tree in a rather marvellous den of my own making! I can tell you in detail the location of every knot and scar on our tallest conifer, the sound it made in the winds, the way it smelt after the rain, the sticky feeling of sap after a heatwave, but I would struggle to recall the pattern of the living room wallpaper! At the moment we have a very small garden but it really is an extension of our home, which is rare in Ireland where its either too wet, windy or dark to use a garden for most of the year!

We kept this in mind when we were designing the gardens on Cnoc na Gaire, we wanted somewhere that our whole family could use, where we could grow plants, food and children, a place to socialise, play, learn and relax in on a daily basis and not just when the sun deigned to shine. We wanted a loose formality, a landscaping with soft edges, a manicured garden into which the surrounding hills had tumbled. We don't plan on having cows in the garden (!) but we didn't want them to look too out of place when they stuck their head over the fence.

The front garden was such a big space that it could comfortably accommodate this (rambling, nonsensical) brief. The back garden on the other hand - well that was a bit of a tougher call! Nevertheless I think it looks amazing! The round patios, potager garden, curving lattice fencing  and kidney lawn keep it reasonably informal while still providing designated areas for all the things we wanted, the chickens in the corner will only add to its charm!


The raw untouched back yard! At this stage it was a grass and gravel! It was hard to imagine what the space was capable of becoming and a part of me loved how rugged it was.


That feeling didn't last long once the diggers moved in! Up came the grass and down went the patio slabs! 


Things really slowed down after the initial spurt, the finer details took a lot longer, the pergola has gone up over the larger patio, eventually this will be covered in gorgeous, perfumed wisteria. I can't wait! 


Aaaaaaaand it's almost finished! The trampoline has been sunk and the lawn has been seeded, the plants are laid out ready for their forever homes and I can't wait to move in!!!!!!! 


This my favourite area! On the left is looking down towards the front garden, through the 'secret' path that runs behind the potager garden and on the right is the view looking up this pathway into the back garden! Eeeek! I'm so looking forward to chasing Alfie and the boys along this path!



Play time!

All throughout my pregnancy Alfie was the most chilled out little baby, he never went mad with the kicking, I had no terrible hardships during his gestation (what a word!) and his birth was pretty easy and happy. He's been the exact same now that he's out, a happy, relaxed little baby! 

Fred and I were keen on starting Montessori from birth and this is our first stab at it! He's 14 weeks old now and just starting to engage with people and objects around him. In the last few days we've started to introduce a small selection of toys, prior to this his happiest moments were when he was looking at someones face and singing songs with them or studying his black and white banner.

These photos were taken when he was only two and a half weeks old. At this stage a baby can't see further than 8-12 inches. Their vision is so poor that they struggle to distinguish colours and find it easiest to focus on high contrast images in black and white...As usual, I didn't believe the experts and their alleged facts until I saw it in action for myself!


Alfie's reaction to the black and white hanging was instant! From the first second that we put in front of him he couldn't tear his eyes away! It was the first time that he had really focused on anything and taken some time to study something.


We could see his eyes travelling all over the whole chart until he found a square that caught his attention then he would begin his search again.

I was so surprised by his reaction. His little face is pure concentration! He stayed like this for several minutes, letting his attention flow to different areas of the chart.


As he got older we folded the chart into a pyramid and let him stare at it while he did his tummy time which he also really enjoyed but his favourite way to play with it is still while it's hanging from his baby gym.

PS. I love the IKEA Leka baby gym, because it's so easy to adapt it and change out the mobiles, added bonus it's a bargain at £20. It's fairly plain and not 100 miles from the Montessori/Waldorf ideal that we would want for Alfie. So far we haven't messed with it too much but I LOVE this tutorial to modify it from Put Up Your Dukes. When I get a bit of spare time (lol) I'm going to try and do something similar.

Sunday, October 16, 2016

Gardens on Cnoc na Gaire

Over 8 weeks ago men with shovels, steel capped boots, a lifetime supply of lucozade and roaring yellow diggers arrived like an invading army on to Cnoc na Gaire. Since then our Hill of Laughter has been a slightly less tranquil and significantly louder place. There's been a whole lot of mud, sweat and rain but the once grassy knoll is emerging from under those steel clad feet as an elegant and refined garden.


This was our garden waaaaay back in July just before Alfie was born, which feels like a whole life time ago! A different person stood on these front steps and looked out at a different landscape, with only the faintest inclination of how drastically the world was about to shift!


The initial growth spurt was the most dramatic as it happened so quickly! I remember a brief moment of panic when I first saw how we had brutalised it, I genuinely felt sad for everything we'd uprooted. A small mercy that the Summer was over we weren't making any bees homeless. As first priority the top layer of soil was pulled away and turned to kill weeds and destroy their roots. After that the levels were set, because of the slope and poor drainage the front garden was divided into three levels. The first will be a gravel turning circle and will sit right under that digger, down three steps will be a rectangular formal lawn and down a further flight of steps, nestled at the foot of the hill will be a round lawn surrounded by a wild flower meadow.


Things had started to take shape by September, you can see where the lawns will be laid, as well as where the steps will eventually go. One of the things I love about Cnoc na Gaire is the light. From every angle it is bathed in warm, living light. This photo makes me so excited to grow our lives there.


Then one day, there was a roundabout! The turning circle appeared over night! On the right you can just about make out the last few feet of what will one day be a secret pathway and down on both lawns there are tiny, grassy spikes nuzzling their way out of the soil! Eeeeek! I can't wait! 

On Tuesday for the very first time we will be donning work boots and rubber gloves ourselves and finally getting our own hands in the soil! Our shiny new shovels are sitting in the garage just waiting to be used! I am speechless with joy!

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Birthday Bucket List: Give Up Facebook

Every year on my birthday I write down 12 things that I want to do before the next one rolls round, some things are big, some things are little but ALL the things are just for me! You can read the list here.

In October I have decided to give up Facebook for a month. It will be the longest stretch I've gone without it in eight years. It's going to be tricky, embarrassingly hard actually but hopefully refreshing! Being on maternity leave will make it extra sticky as there's several millenia of nap time to fill every day and often as Alfie snuffles in his sleep my fingers automatically take me to this Time Thief. It wouldn't be so bad if Facebook wasn't so bloody crap! These days its nothing but click bait, sponsored posts and news stories. And to that I say BORING! And SNORE! And JOG ON MATE!

I'll still be polluting the waters of social media over on Instagram (grainneo) come and say hi!

Book of the Month

The Disclaimer, Renee Knight
As part of my Birthday Bucket List I'm reading at least one book a month. In September I read a few books, the best was The Disclaimer by Renee Knight.

In this thriller the main character, Catherine, discovers a novel in which she herself stars and which exposes her darkest secret.

This is a good book but not a great one, it's perfect for when you want a fast read that will keep you interested, occasionally send your eyebrows shooting into your hairline and rarely ask you to think.

Knight's style of writing keeps things tense, which is fortunate because at times her plot feels a little convenient. Her characters are likeable but occasionally I found myself saying "Really? They did that?" as they have a tendency towards the dramatic.

It's enjoyable and worth a look if you like disposable thrillers.

Birthday Bucket List

Every year Fred and I write a list of 12 new things we'd like to do before our next birthday. I love having something to look forward to and it's a brilliant motivator!

1. Complete Round 1 and Round 2 of Kayla Itsines Bikini Body Guide - equal parts excitement and dread on this one!

2. Go somewhere new - This is a bit of a cheat because we do a trip every year, in December we're off to Zurich.

3. Sewing - My aim is to complete 6 sewing projects this year.

4. Be a book worm - Reading is one of my favourite things but I still struggle to make time for it, this year I will read at least one book a month.

5. Watch a TV series in Spanish - I need to practice!!!!

6. Great Family Bake Off - Make one seasonal bake every season, so far I'm thinking; Apple Pie in Autumn, Cranberry Tarts in Winter, Easter Cake in Spring and Summer Fruit Drizzle Cake in Summer

7. Give up Facebook for a month - waaaaah this is going to hurt, who knows what I'll do with all the free time I'll have! Learn a language? Get a part time job? Achieve enlightenment?

8. Do a photography course - Fred bought me a great camera for Christmas last year which currently feels like it's under achieving!

9. Complete a photo album - I miss real life photo albums! Wouldn't it be nice to open an actual book of memories? Just a page or two with highlights from each month would make such a lovely keepsake.

10. Spending detox - for one month spend on NOTHING but food, bills, petrol - no dinners out or coffee treats or nice clothes no one needs!

11. Write at least once a week for 2 months - simples!

12. Move house - the one I'm most excited for!